Our ability to serve the needs of others is dependent on our spiritual wholeness. The more we become like Christ, the more we are able to love others.
To the degree that we are hurt, we stay focused on ourselves.
Christian behaviorism results from an overemphasis on doing - do better, try harder. Many of us try and try, and fail and fail, until we finally give up.
What went wrong?
We cannot change our behavior without Jesus changing who we are. We must separate doing from being. Christ's good news is that we can become free in our innermost being.
Confronting the real issues in our lives seems to scare people to death. After years and years of fear, shame, and covering up our weaknesses and failures, the idea of facing them is often terrifying.
This is where the fight comes in, where the battle begins. Whether it is for yourself or for someone else, don't tell me it isn't a battle when you stand face to face with the lies that the enemy has told someone since they were a child, when they cower at the voice in their heart telling them they are a failure, or they are worthless, or they are just plain bad.
If the vicious cycle of hurt is not addressed, the pain passes down from father to son, mother to daughter, generation to generation.
This is a battle worth fighting. Yes, Jesus already purchased our freedom, but it is up to us to lay hold of it as a reality in our lives.