I'm trying to figure out how I ended up being so counterculture.
If I am raising my kids counter to the culture, is that a good thing for them?
Am I hurting their future if I don't position them on the fast track to success...American style?
You see in the suburbs, counterculture is when your kids aren't in soccer, don't each have their own cellphone, x-box, and have their scholarships to top-notch colleges lined up by the time they are a junior in high school.
Many Christians also embrace the cultural values of popularity, vanity, and success.
In the race for the newest, biggest house, it is countercultural to only have three bedrooms. When did it become abnormal to say, "that's OK, we have enough"?
We are counterculture to the homeschool culture also. No, we don't want to boycott Disney, Starbucks, or Levis. No, we don't want to take up the cause of homeschooling as a moral choice. We don't see it that way.
Most parents want what is best for their kids and are the ones best equipped to make those parenting decisions. We do what we do because we believe it is what God has led us to do personally. I have no desire to apply that conviction to anyone else's choices.
Before I mislead you about what I mean by counterculture, let me just say that I am not talking about the "world is scary and evil, protect your kids at all costs mentality." I don't want my kids sheltered from the world. That is not my goal.
I want to provide my kids an environment where they can be themselves and grow up grounded in love and acceptance. In a culture, where even most adults suffer from a socially-generated identity, I want my kids secure in their identity in Christ and their worth through Him.
"Mom, did you know Mandy at dance class already had nine boyfriends?"
"No, how old is Mandy, fifteen?"
"No, she's twelve."
"Why do you suppose Mandy's had nine boyfriends already?"
I want so much better for my girls. At this point, they want better for themselves also.
I'm afraid we don't fit the standard church culture either. The last thing I want is for my kids to be religious and cloistered. I don't want them living out of an identity of moral superiority and exclusivity.
It seems like I started down the path of normal, and the rest of the world took a sharp turn.
Or maybe it's just me.
Is it fair to raise kids who don't fit into the world or religion?