I believe that our character and giftings become evident in the life we live. If the giftings of a pastor, apostle, prophet, teacher, or evangelist are in you, they will find a place of expression in your life.
Many of our current church structures and titled positions are based on power and rank, not necessarily gifting. Those in power become the gatekeepers to determine whose giftings are recognized and who is qualified to serve. Too often, we have waited for these systems to validate and acknowledge us.
Go ahead and be what you are. Let the life of Christ be expressed through you in the ways that are in your heart, not worrying about whether your giftings carry a title. If it is in your heart to mentor and shepherd, don't wait for someone to call you an elder or pastor. Go ahead and serve with the giftings that are in you.
Women especially have sat sidelined while men, scratching their heads, puzzled over what a woman's role in the church should be. It doesn't matter what they decide, because their lack of understanding doesn't negate the spiritual giftings that are already within women. You may never be acknowledged by certain institutions, but the kingdom is wide open to those who desire to serve with a humble and loving heart.
The same thing applies to being missional and emerging. It really doesn't matter if those around you agree with your ideas about being emerging. If you are emerging, go ahead and emerge. If you are truly missional, find a way to express that in your life. You don't have to change your entire church in order to be missional. Let being missional begin in your own heart and life first.
As we pursue insignificance and obscurity, it is likely that we will never be recognized at the gates of influence. However, there is nothing holding us back from living our lives with full expression of the spiritual gifts that are resident in us.
So go ahead, be what you are!